Coaching someone who is stuck

What is a solution that you have heard of but have yet to try for yourself? How can you redefine this situation in a way that emphasizes your personal power? What is something that you are passionate about? How can you use that passion to help you achieve your goals? What would you do in this situation if you knew that no one would judge you?

What is your gut telling you to do? What is the simplest step that you can take in the right direction? What action that takes one hour or less to complete could move you in the direction of achieving your goals? What action would you take if you valued yourself more? What action would you take if you trusted yourself more? You can also like her Facebook page at www. The views and opinions expressed in guest posts featured on this blog are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and views of the International Coach Federation ICF.

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Why did that happen? Why didn't it go the way I expected? And as long as we keep analysing and searching for answers, we get to avoid experiencing the 'unpleasant' thoughts and feelings. You asked for exercises and tools - which I will share in a moment. But before getting into exercises, I would do some gentle exploring around what they're feeling, what they're saying to themselves.

And help them acknowledge what's really going on for them. What do they get to avoid looking at or feeling by asking, "Why? It can be great to give the client something to do when they notice they are headed down the why spiral. So, when a client gets caught up and stuck in "Why", I give my clients two great questions to ask themselves instead:.

So, you asked about exercises and tools. As a next step in coaching it's great to get your clients doing something, anything, rather than being stuck in the brain loop of why? Here are some suggestions:. This intense observation helps me decide which questions might move the person forward. For example, my demonstration client said she was feeling stuck.

That gave me great information to follow up on. Another client I coached was the leader of an organization that was facing a big decision about which direction to take.

He was also in the process of exiting this organization, which was his choice, and he wanted to fix everything before he left. He said he likes to end with everything put together, neat and perfect, no loose ends. I so appreciate your support and encouragement.

Yes all these strategies worked with my clients soecially the metaphors but they require some coaching knowledge in NLP. Nevertheless they are easy to use, just as Emma pointed out. Excellent ideas for helping clients get unstuck. Remember Me. Forgot username or password? Click here. To provide a more personalized user experience, including content, ads and social media features, our website uses pixels and cookies.

By continuing on this website, you consent to use of our pixels and cookies. For more information, visit our Privacy Policy. Learn more. Looking for Converge 21? Lean in to the Discomfort One way to really get moving is to, in a controlled and focused way, really look at how they feel, to lean into their discomfort, difficulties and the problems and challenges their current situation gives them.

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